I smile at the most inappropriate times.
I do, it’s true.
The times you tell me your relationship is rocky and you’re just not sure how to connect anymore. How it breaks your heart just to be in the same room as the person who’s supposed to lift you up and support you on this journey, because you can’t feel their heart anymore.
The times you admit that your work is draining the life right out of you and you’re not sure what to do about it. When the light leaves your eyes as you talk about everything you have to do just to get through the day. How hard it is to roll out of bed and face another day.
The times when you cry as you talk about all the people you’ve lost, the ones you loved who were careless with their lives, or who were taken far too soon. When you share your frustration for the ways people, including yourself, settle for less than they deserve, and you feel helpless and lost.
The times when you feel so lost and disconnected from yourself that all you know is you just don’t know anymore. When all you feel is empty and aching and tired of this world and all it asks of us. When the idea of feeling happy or even content seems impossible.
Yes, I will be sitting there across the table or on the other end of the line, smiling largely and inappropriately considering the topic of our conversation. Not only will I be smiling, but I will be trying with all my might not to bounce right out of the chair I’m sitting in.
I’m not insensitive, far from it.
I’m just excited.
Really, really excited.
I’m excited because I know this is such a beautiful and important moment for you… and mostly because I can see and feel what’s next for you, even if you can’t yet. So you will keep telling me about why things aren’t working, and how impossible it seems to ever steer things in the direction you want them to go. And I will smile a smile so big it will feel entirely out of place, because I see and feel what’s waiting for you, if you’re just willing to do the work that’s being asked of you in this moment.
You see… when we face challenges and heartache and losses so big they take the wind right out of our bodies, we’re being asked to step it up. We’re being asked to walk into the muck and face what no longer fits so that we can become the person we’re here to be. So we can do the work we’re so called to do.
And even if you can’t feel it or hear it, you’re called to do very specific work in this world. Yes, you. To contribute in a way that only you can. For a group of people who so desperately need you to step it up, walk through the muck with a little courage and a lot of devotion to the journey, and a willingness to release what no longer serves you along the way.
This work isn’t easy.
Oh, how I know that all too well.
This isn’t easy work.
I should know, I’ve been doing it for almost a decade.
As Mae West so perfectly puts it, “I never said it would be easy, I only said it would be worth it.”
It’s so worth it my friend, so unbelievably worth it.
To finally know exactly why you were put on this earth, the work you’re here to do. To love and trust and understand yourself and your intuition so well that it takes a simple check in with the body to make big, huge life decisions with ease. To attract the most amazing tribe into your world. People that will see you, love you, and show up for you in ways you didn’t know it was possible for another human to show up.
To find a partnership with someone that meets you at all levels: sexually, spiritually, intellectually, physically, and with their values and visions for your future, together. To feel so at peace with yourself and your body that only love flows in and out of you around the person you are in each moment.
To structure your life in a way that allows for massive freedom and play and adventure and exploration, in all the ways that make you excited and fulfilled. To find your voice, whether you’re creative or not, and share it with others openly, freely, rawly, and vulnerably.
Ten years ago I would have laughed in your face if you told me any of this was possible.
Five years ago, even.
I hated people. I hated life. I hated the world. I hated my work.
I was convinced that there was no place for me, no way I’d ever feel fulfilled and passionate and happy. I was so lost with absolutely no clue who I was or what I wanted. I truly believed, down to the core of my bones, that I would never be happy. I simply wasn’t wired for it and it wasn’t in the cards. No matter what I did, I only seemed to get fatter, unhappier, and more lost. It hurt so bad I lost the ability to feel and connect at all, and I had no passion or zest or interest in life.
But now, I’m so disgustingly happy with my life and work.
I’m one of those people I wanted to smack for using words like “joy” and “passion” on the regular. For having the kind of relationships that I thought only existed in movies and TV shows. People like me made me hate the world and myself even more, because I was so certain I would never, ever have any of it.
And yet, here I am, living the most incredible life.
I’m joyful from a space deep inside my soul, bubbling over with gratitude and appreciation for the amazingness that is my life and business. I do work that lights my soul on fire and allows me to bring all my passions, interests, and talents into one place. I spend my day supporting beautiful souls all over the world in building lives and businesses around their own passions. I work from home in beautiful Boulder, CO, in the perfect little apartment just minutes from the mountains. I’m building a life with my best friend and soulmate, a man who meets me on every single level, in ways that I can’t even believe are real. I have the world’s most amazing friends. People who showed up for me in my darkest hours, holding me while I cried, lending me their cars and offices and even couches when I thought I might be without a place to stay, without a second thought.
All I can say is, “thank you, more please.”
And more keeps coming.
This isn’t to say my life is perfect, because it’s not. This has been the hardest year of my life in ways that stretched my soul and cracked me open. In ways that have broken and rebuilt me, bringing me to my knees time and time again, and forcing me to claw my way out of a darkness that nearly consumed me. In ways that I will never, ever come back from because this year changed me. It opened me and lead me in a whole new direction with my work. It deepened my intuition and my inability to smile through the bullshit and facades. It made me even more passionate about taking a stand for myself and others to speak our truths, know ourselves fully, and build lives and businesses around the things that light our souls on fire. Life is too short to waste time. We hear that, but we don’t know it in ways that break our hearts until we know it.
But this year reminded me what it’s like to sit in the shit and to walk through the darkest seasons of our lives. And for that I’m grateful. It’s made me a far better coach than I ever was. Because I’m not going to sit here and paint pretty pictures of places that don’t exist, plastering over the yucky parts with fabricated positivity. Nope. I’m going to hear you and feel you. I’m going to meet you where you’re at, and from there we’ll work together to craft a life and business that you truly, truly love.
I know how much you probably want to smack me in the face right now… because you’re hurting or lost or simply unhappy with things. You can’t see any of this in a way that makes it feel real and tangible and possible for YOU.
But you don’t have to see it.
That’s where I come in.
From the moment that we sit down and you begin sharing all that hurts and drains and drags you down, I will tune in and I will see it for you. And I will smile, so inappropriately considering the topics at hand, because I know what’s coming around the corner if you’re willing to do the work. If you’re willing to let me take your hand and guide you forward.
I’ve always said, if people would just let me at their lives and businesses, I can help them create the most amazing transformations and changes. I can guide them in bringing even the craziest vision to life. I have zero doubts.
Call it cocky, I call it committed.
Even if you feel like you’ve lost too much of yourself over the years.
Even if you have absolutely no idea, not even an inkling, of what you’re passionate about.
Even if life feels so impossible and overwhelming you can hardly breathe.
I can help you build a life and business around your passion.
As long as you’re ready and willing to do the work.
That’s it. That’s my only requirement. Really.
Not only am I a “life” and “business” coach, but I’m a highly intuitive coach, and one of my specific intuitive gifts is a clear vision of what’s possible. So the moment you sit down and start sharing how hard and impossible everything feels, I will smile oh so inappropriately, because I see, with absolute and undeniable clarity, what’s possible for you. And it’s always beautiful, meaningful, magical, and aligned with what you want, even if you think you don’t know what that is.
And I’m ready to guide you every step of the way, if you’ll have me.
Eagerly. Lovingly. Patiently.
And with everything you need to make it happen faster than you ever thought possible.
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What my clients are saying…
“Not only did Stephenie help clarify my purpose, but she also helped me get started on creating my business model and automation around it all.”
So before I started working with Stephenie I had reached the end of my whit. I knew I was here to make a difference in people’s lives but I just didn’t know which direction I needed to go. I had started so many ideas but never followed through with any of them to the stage that they were making money and giving me fulfillment. I was at an all time low in my life.
It’s funny, this may sound a bit woo woo here, but while I was in the middle of my all time low, I prayed and meditated for help and guidance. I came out of that meditative state and flicked open Facebook, as you do ;), and I clicked on an article which then led me to Stephenie’s website. As I read her own personal story I felt like she understood where I was coming from because she had been there. I knew at that moment I had to contact her.
I am so happy that I did, not only did Stephenie help clarify my purpose, but she also helped me get started on creating my business model and automation around it all. In between our scheduled calls she would help me with my copywriting, and provided me with the resources I needed to build a great business around my passion. I really appreciated her experiences and knowledge in getting through this time of frustration.
I would definitely recommend Stephenie for anyone who wants to discover their purpose, build a solid business around it and to lead a happy and fulfilling life.
“This was deeply personal work but Stephenie brings a tremendous presence to her coaching that provided a safe and accepting environment to work in. I can’t recommend her highly enough.”
I had a great opportunity to work with Stephenie one-on-one this year. It came at a critical time, as I was trying to push through the last 10% of getting a book finished and kept running into (mostly internal) road blocks. Stephenie dug deep so we could focus on the real sticking points, came up with a plan for moving forward and was there by phone and e-mail to support me. In particular, the ideas we generated weren’t just “do this/ do that”. Stephenie went deeper and we identified ways to foster and nurture creativity, how to prioritize my work and creating excitement about finishing the book. I was also blown away by the acupressure Stephenie brought in. It was a simple and highly effective method for getting by some deep writer’s block. This was deeply personal work but Stephenie brings a tremendous presence to her coaching that provided a safe and accepting environment to work in. Stephenie is a genuinely caring person who brings authenticity and expertise to her coaching. I can’t recommend her highly enough.
Barry Solway, Author of Courtship of the Monster Under the Bed
“If you’re really wanting to create something new, discover your true passions, or simply just feel more reconnected to your true self but you just can’t seem to figure out how to get there, then Stephenie is your go-to gal.”
If you asked me two months ago what topic I wanted to base my business on, I wouldn’t have been able to tell you. I felt this strong need to create a business, but I was overwhelmed with ideas. Stephenie really helped me to filter out which ideas were just interests and which were my main passions.
What I’m most thankful for is the weekly to-do lists she provided me after each of our sessions to help me stay on track to getting one step completed before I jumped to the next thing. I know that if I tried to start my business on my own, I would’ve overlooked SO many things and burn myself out. I would’ve kept pushing myself to get things done, but then worried that I forgot or did something wrong.
With her guidance and support, my business is up and running and I have created my Individual Coaching Package and two Transformational Quick-Guides. I’m currently coaching my own clients and there are several other products and packages in the making.
The best part is that, by working with Stephenie, I have been able to overcome my own mental blocks so that I now feel so much more in-tune with my own creative flow. I’m no longer just sitting around wanting to create and do something but unsure if that’s “right” or good enough, or creating blocks by telling myself “I don’t know how to do that” or “I can’t do that”. Now I’m just letting my own creative spirit flow. I’m freely expressing my ideas… and myself… without all the hesitation.
If you’re really wanting to create something new, discover your true passions, or simply just feel more reconnected to your true self but you just can’t seem to figure out how to get there, then Stephenie is your go-to gal. She will definitely sort out all those crazy thoughts in your brain and set you on the right track so you can create your own joy in your life that you so desperately crave.
Stephenie, thank you so much for helping me through this process! I am eternally grateful!
–Jennifer Twardowski, CA
“Not only did Stephenie help pinpoint my passions, but she also helped me get started on creating my business. I feel free because I have a deeper sense of self and purpose.”
Before I started working with Stephenie I felt completely lost. I knew I was meant to do something greater but I just didn’t know which direction I should go. I had so many ideas and was afraid of making the wrong decision. This unknowing and fear really led me to feeling trapped. I needed help pinpointing what my true purpose was and the things I was truly passionate about. Enter Stephenie.
When I saw Stephenie’s website and read more about the type of people she worked with I found myself relating to everything that was listed. The problems that she helped clients with described completely described my situation at the time, and the solutions she offered were exactly what I needed. As I read her own personal story I felt like she understood where I was coming from because she had been there. I knew at that moment I had to submit an application to work with her.
I have to say I’m truly happy I listened to my intuition because not only did Stephenie help pinpoint my passions, but she also helped me get started on creating my business. She is someone who truly cares about her clients’ well-being and success. In between our scheduled calls she would check-in to see if I needed support, and provided me with the resources I needed. I really appreciated her experiences and knowledge in getting through this time of uncertainty.
I now know what my passions and purpose are in life and am excited to continue on this path. I have the clarity I so desired before I started this journey. I feel free because I have a deeper sense of self and purpose. I would completely recommend Stephenie for anyone who wants to feel a sense of freedom, purpose, and the desire to live your best life.
–Adlin Cedeno, CA
“It’s been really awesome to me to have that new sense of confidence and believing in myself and just believing that my opinions and my dreams really matter and I have dreams for a reason.”
I feel like right now my mindset is shifting so much that things that I’ve been doing the past, I guess 6 months have really just been all coming together… It’s really cool to see how it’s changing me and changing my mindset and, really, I just feel really excited! I’ve been really wanting to start a business and to do stuff online for so long that it’s kind of ridiculous for me to think about how long I’ve been putting stuff off and just thinking that I’m not going to be able to do that or I’m not quite ready for that… I probably never will be ready for that. You know, my dreams are just pipe dreams. And right now they’re just seeming way more realistic, like I can reach out and touch them. It’s been really awesome to me to have that new sense of confidence and believing in myself and just believing that my opinions and my dreams really matter and I have dreams for a reason. And, hopefully, they’re to follow them out. To actually be able to live in my dreams and live in the life that I would love to live. This [program] is showing me more of who my natural self is and I’m giving myself permission through what I’m going through, to just be my natural self.
“I’ve got my fire back. I’m excited, happy and full of energy. Thank you.”
It’s changed my life. It made me became clear on where I am heading with my career and now it’s all falling into place. I can see it going just the way I dreamed of. I’m full of ideas and creativity now and I can put those ideas into practice. My relationship has improved in a big way, I no longer take him for granted. We get on good and are looking forward to our future. Before, I thought we may split. I was worried about money, but since being grateful for what I have, I have received more. The biggest thing I took away was growing spiritually with more inner peace and gratitude, and being able to really see my future clearly. I’ve got my fire back. I’m excited, happy and full of energy. Thank you.
–Charlie Oswin, United Kingdom
“People around me have noticed how ‘happy’ I’ve been lately and I can 100% say that I have never felt more happy, authentic, confident, and healthy as I do now.”
What I’ve experienced over the six weeks of committing to Stephenie’s program is just how amazingly ROCKING life can be when you come from a place of unshakable joy. You don’t need some big huge underlying problem to fix or be completely unhappy with your life to experience radical and transformational mindset shifts, inner peace, and the ability to cultivate positive relationships and lovingly release those that no longer serve you. With Stephenie’s guidance, motivation, and insights, I’ve made changes that have completely transformed my life. Stephenie’s program has helped me figure out where my life was out of harmony, define what I am most passionate about (what “lights a fire in me”), and then set manageable goals to help me achieve my dreams. People around me have noticed how “happy” I’ve been lately and I can 100% say that I have never felt more happy, authentic, confident, and healthy as I do now. I am so grateful to Stephenie for helping me begin this journey of self discovery.
–Jenny McAleese, NY
“I think the biggest thing Stephenie helped me with is coming to a place where I believe in myself again. She helped me come to a place where I now know in my bones that my life is of my own creating; I make the rules, no one else!”
Before working with Stephenie, I felt stuck and afraid to take action. I was just coming off a quarter-life crisis, and knew that having my own business that would lead to location independence was something I HAD TO create for myself! I had invested a lot of time in determining what this business would be, how I could best utilize my talents and ‘researching’ what other industry leaders were doing. But I was stuck in studying mode! I realized I had some deep-seated beliefs that were holding me back and on some level didn’t really believe in myself. But with this program, she walked me step-by-step through the process of creating a life I’m excited to live!
Through our calls I realized none of the “problems” I saw were as big as they seemed; the fearful thoughts holding me back occurred when I was worrying about the future or reliving the past. Having Stephenie hold a safe space for me to pour my heart out and gently guide me back to the present moment was AMAZING! Just having someone who had been there before and gone through the emotional struggles of creating a business to support me and give me feedback was SUCH a relief!!! And nothing was off the table! When I was having relationship problems that were weighing too heavy on me to talk about anything else, she calmly helped me sort through my true desires and fears.
But, I think the biggest thing Stephenie helped me with is coming to a place where I believe in myself again. After feeling bad about myself for changing directions so many times, she helped me come to a place where I now know in my bones that my life is of my own creating; I make the rules, no one else! There is no “right way” to do things, and knowing that is freedom.
–Ashley Gwilliam, Texas
I’m so grateful to have worked with Stephenie as a part of her coaching program. Prior to our time together, I was unsure of what I wanted to “do with my life”. I felt unfulfilled and unsatisfied in my career, and had some ideas of some of my passions, but I wasn’t sure how to incorporate them into my life to make a living. After our 12 weeks together, I feel confident in moving forward in the direction of my dreams. I am so thankful to be able to work towards a satisfying, rewarding business that I feel is my life’s work.
–Jennifer Hand, Colorado
Since starting this program I am on my way to obtaining my bachelors degree, I have reinvested in my own business, and started really focusing on my fitness. I am much happier and much more productive; laziness is a thing of the past! My biggest take-away from this program has been a renewed energy and zest for life. When you are honoring yourself and doing the things that make you happy it’s easy to find motivation and forward momentum.
–Kristina Dahlgren, Hawaii
“I have been taught step by step how to fulfill my dream. I’m feeling unstoppable and taking disciplined action with great faith.”
Stephenie’s coaching has covered many of my concerns, not just technical but inner being issues. I can tell you its refreshing that she’s so easily available, eager to help and evident she wants to see me live out my dream. She’s as true as the woman I anticipated. She’s a gentle yet strong soulful, beautiful young woman.
I have learned to keep my eyes on my own work and to trust in my message. Best advice in my area of passion. I have been taught step by step how to fulfill my dream. I’m feeling unstoppable and taking disciplined action with great faith. My inhibitions have left and have been replaced by confidence and strength.
Stephenie’s evident compassion and passion for our success of course and that is shown in all of the content she’s created for our success. Anyone who has a desire to live out their best life in all areas and do it either through sharing a passion online or just living out their own life with great passion and joy would have no regrets signing up for Stephenie’s Mastery. For all of the reasons I’ve already stated of course, but most importantly because of her persona. She’s 100% living what she teaches. She’s authentic and genuine. She’s got a lifetime of invaluable wisdom that some never in a lifetime will acquire. I’m blessed to have had her come into my life.
–Tina Soriano, California
“By working with Stephenie, I have really taken the time to figure out who I am and who I want to be out there in the online world. Hands down, working with her has been one of the best decisions I have ever made.”
I knew I wanted to start my own business, I knew all the steps I should take to make it happen, but I just wasn’t feeling like my business idea was very authentic. It didn’t feel like me – it was missing my passion, my strengthens, and my vision.
I had followed Stephenie’s work for a while. Her free training videos really sold the program for me. I really liked the way she came across in them. Totally comfortable, real, smart, and I thought that we had very similar aesthetics, personality traits, and interests so I thought she would be a great fit as a mentor for me. And she is. She is AMAZING.
She really cares about the people she works with, and makes herself available to you. She is super inspiring, and after every conversation I walk away with my light bulbs on and burning brightly! She makes me feel excited and confident about launching my brand. Her feedback and advice has been incredible.
I am living in a place of positivity now because I have gotten clarity on my mission. I still dont know all of the answers, and am just in the baby stages of building my brand but I feel like by working with Stephenie, I have really taken the time to figure out who I am and who I want to be out there in the online world. When I do launch, my business will be authentically me, and that was what I was searching for before I enrolled.
I would SO recommend Stephenie as a coach and mentor. She has been blessed with the ability to really tune into the needs of others and can help shift their perception in a short amount of time. She is super professional, offers high quality advice, and has really been an inspiration to me. I totally connect with her words and her vibe. She is such a compassionate person, a giver and very creative all at the same time. She shares her story with ease, and helps others along their path. Hands down, working with her has been one of the best decisions I have ever made.
– Abby Murphy, Illinois
“I can’t believe how much my life has changed over just the past few weeks.”
It’s, it’s mind boggling to me. I mean, I am so incredibly focused at work. It’s amazing and I love it. I’m doing my best to learn how to live in the moment. I have my good times and I have my bad times. But, it’s just the amount of awareness that I feel about my entire life and the amount of belief that I now have in myself and about my fantastic future. I mean, it’s really given me hope. Yesterday was one of the first days I can ever remember in my entire life where someone walked up to me and asked “How are you today?” And I said,“You know what, I am absolutely fantastic, how are you?” and he was, like, “look at you!” I mean, he just didn’t even know what to say. I’m like wow it expels from me that much. And, I see it. And having these experiences of real happiness and joy, that’s now starting to come.