It’s Not Always About What You Want

More often, it’s about what you need.

This is a lesson that the Universe is hammering into me lately and one that I know to be true to the core of my being. I fret over the options and possibilities, try to will what I envision to life, and work so hard to convince myself that the more comfortable, easy route will do. Oh, you didn’t know coaches do this too? Well, we do.

I’m a student of life and a lover of growth. Because of this, my life is always in flux. I’m always changing, learning, stretching, growing, and expanding. I’m always aware of what’s next and ready for the challenge. But that doesn’t mean I’m immune to growing pains and that I don’t, from time to time, try to avoid them.

That doesn’t mean I’m not a fan of ease and comfort. Of course I am, I’m human. Despite my constant desire and need for evolution, sometimes what’s asked of me is scary and hard. Sometimes it’s unclear how it’s of service to me at all. And yet, the tiny voice pipes up and ever so gently and ever so lovingly, nudges me forward.

It’s time.
This isn’t right.
Here’s what you need to do.
Trust me, I know.

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It’s not always about what you want, it’s about what you need.

And that’s an incredibly important distinction to make.

Sometimes it’s not about your desire to build a business quickly so that you can make gobs of money doing what you love. Sometimes there’s something you need to learn, experience, fail at, or try, before you can become the person you need to be to build the business that will make you gobs of money doing what you love.

Sometimes it’s not about your desire to be with the person in front of you because that’s who you believe you want to be with. Sometimes we need to leave the ones we love in order to create the space to find ourselves. Sometimes we need to be left or hurt by the ones we love in order to become the person necessary to have a truly fulfilling partnership.

Sometimes it’s not about your desire to meet your goal and live happily ever after staring at the recognition of accomplishment on your wall or in your photo album. Sometimes it’s about the journey. The, at times, painful, hard, confusing, trying, and will breaking journey. Sometimes it’s about the failures that force us to re-evaluate what we really want to create in the first place, and more importantly, why. Sometimes you have to change direction, start over, or fall on your face in order to finally succeed.

All of this to say, don’t give up.

The journey is as important as the outcome.

When you feel like things aren’t going the way you want, remember that it may be more about what you need in this moment, not whether or not it’s something you can have. You are always being supported, guided, and given exactly what you need.

Trust that.

Especially when it’s hard.

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What Are You Waiting For?

There are many reasons why amazing people never live up to their full potential, just the same as there are many reasons why amazing ideas, visions, goals, dreams, businesses, products, services, books, paintings, and songs never see the light of day.

Because there just weren’t enough hours in the day. 
The timing never really lined up perfectly.
They weren’t an “expert” at what they were doing.
It was more important to focus on practical things first.
It would have been selfish for them to follow their passions.
They may not have been able to make good money.

There are a million and one reasons why we think we shouldn’t start now, and our minds are phenomenal at constructing the most believable stories and excuses. But all these stories and excuses do is keep us stuck, passionless, unhappy, and dissatisfied with life. We think we’re playing it safe and protecting ourselves, but we’re doing the worst kind of damage possible by stifling our passions and desires.

Regardless of where you’re at, now is the time to start.

Starting doesn’t have to mean leaving the secure job and uprooting your entire life. It doesn’t have to mean going all in and risking everything. Starting just means taking the first step.

Investing in the class or mentor.
Buying a book.
Writing the first words of your own book.
Buying canvas and paints.
Going for a walk.
Making the call or sending the email.
Sharing your goal with the world.
Starting a blog.
Setting the spare change aside every day.

There will never be a perfect time to start anything worthwhile, especially if it revolves around creating massive shifts in your life, career, or relationships. Change is scary, and when things require you to get uncomfortable, it’s easy to find reasons why you should stay put just a little longer. But I speak from experience when I say that “just a little longer” can quickly become your everyday life and reality.

So today I encourage you to take the first step.

Throw some paint on the canvas without knowing what it will become, write the first words to your novel, invest in the class, book, or mentor, and get the uncomfortableness of starting over with so you can really begin moving forward towards your dreams.

I’m not saying every step after that first one will be easy, but the momentum from starting will carry you much further than the stagnant energy you have right now.

Take out your journal and work through the following:

  1. Ask yourself, “what am I waiting for?”
  2. Make a list of all the “reasons” you can’t move forward right now.
  3. Then come up with three alternatives for each reason that would allow you to begin moving forward today. For example, “I don’t have any experience painting” could become “sign up for the free painting class at the local craft store.”
  4. Do something RIGHT NOW to start moving forward.

Are you ready to take the first step towards building a business around your passion?

My new program, Your Passion-Based Business™ kicks off on Monday, April 14th!

For the past two years, I’ve had the honor of supporting amazing individuals like you in building profitable online businesses around their passions and purpose. Many started with just an inkling of what they’re passionate about, and absolutely no clue where to even begin building something worthwhile, profitable, fulfilling, or marketable. Having worked with so many unique clients and ideas, I’ve perfected the process of turning passionate individuals into profitable entrepreneurs. Because the process works so well, I’ve packaged it in an easy to follow, 12-week program to help you do the same. Click here to learn more!

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You Already Know

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I often get emails from wonderful people asking if I can help them figure out what they’re meant to do in this life. Each with a unique (yet similar) story about loss, life getting in the way, being stuck, or a hardship that’s taken them down the wrong path. I feel so much love for each of these individuals because I get it. I’ve been there.

I remember countless tears, nights spent questioning everything about my life, moments of panic as I realized how far off course I was, and moments of debilitating terror as I simultaneously realized I had no idea what “on course” actually was.

I just knew I was lost.
Doing the wrong work.
Lacking passion and purpose.
Living a life that wasn’t for me.
Swimming in fear, doubt and confusion.

It sucked.

All I knew was I wanted to make a difference in this world and that I was meant for something more. I tried to take the life I’d built and cram it into the few things I did know… I tried to make a design business that didn’t light me up have meaning and purpose. I tried to convince myself that I was doing work that made a difference. I tried so hard to avoid admitting that I was as far off course as I was.

But the fact remained, there’s only one way to find your purpose and passion, and only one way to build a life and career/business you love.

You have to get honest with yourself. Really, truly honest.

What I’ve learned in this life is that we always know who we’re here to be and the work we’re meant to do. We know what we’re passionate about and we know our purpose. It’s imprinted in the fibers of our being and written in our soul.

The problem isn’t “finding” our passion or purpose, it’s uncovering it. It’s digging deep below the have to dos, should dos, external expectations, pressures of society, limiting beliefs and getting really honest.

Getting honest isn’t as simple or easy as it sounds. In fact, it’s one of the hardest things you’ll ever do in this life. Because oftentimes getting honest means admitting that you’ve built a life, career, relationship or business that doesn’t really serve you. You’ve poured time and energy into something that doesn’t light you up and fulfill you on all levels. You’ve abandoned your truth, neglected to set boundaries, or followed a path someone else set for you despite the fact it wasn’t what you wanted.

None of this is easy to admit, even to ourselves. Even in the private pages of our journals or in the whispers of our soul. Even the idea of letting these truths surface is so terrifying that many of us work as hard as we can to avoid getting still. Because when we’re still, we’re quiet… and when we’re quiet, all there is to hear is our soul speak.

Our souls never lead us astray, ever.

Our souls are nothing but honest with us.
They tell us exactly what we don’t want to hear.
But they also tell us exactly what we need to hear.

They tell us to leave when a relationship is wrong. They tell us to shift when a job or business isn’t fulfilling. They tell us to explore and experiment with random things that will give us the lessons and experiences we need to grow. They tell us to leap when all rational signs say to stay put, and they tell us to change when all logic says things are perfectly fine. Our souls push us in ways we’re just not comfortable with.

So we bury our truth, fall in line, and continue building lives that we don’t love. Simply because we’re scared to admit that we might want something different.

My challenge to you is to get still and quiet. Meditate, pray, or go for a walk without your phone, music or any other distraction. Give yourself the time and space to be with your soul in silence. Allow your truth to start surfacing… because as much as you may wish there’s a magic pill, worksheet or finger snap that will make you suddenly love your life without having to get uncomfortable, it’s not going to happen.

I’ve had many uncomfortable and hard conversations since I started this journey. I’ve left jobs and relationships, learned to stand firm in my beliefs and boundaries, and had to voice my truth and desires in situations where it would’ve been easier to stay quiet. I’ve made massive changes to myself, my relationships, my business and my life… all because I got still, heard my soul speak, and honored it.

I’ve never regretted a single shift I’ve made while honoring my truth. Not one.

And I promise you won’t either.

So if you’re looking to find your passion and build a life you love around it, today’s the day. Click here to access my free video training series, Pinpoint Your Passion, and get really honest with yourself as you work through the exercises. Get quiet and still, and see what comes up for you. Don’t avoid it, try to stuff it down, or ignore it because it makes you uncomfortable. Take the first step and just allow it to surface. Honor it’s presence by hearing and sitting with it.

You owe it to yourself. 

And if you’re ready to build a business around what you know you’re here to do, I invite you to join my in my new program, Your Passion-Based Business starting Monday, April 14th. Everything you need to build a business around your passion, in just 12 weeks.

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Pinpoint Your Passion Video Training Series

Merry Monday to you! Today I have some exciting news, as well as a FREE training series for you. :)

First and foremost, I’m so excited to introduce my new program to you, Your Passion-Based Business™!

I believe that whatever your passion is in this world, you can make great money doing work you love.

I believe no matter how crazy, big, ridiculous or unheard of your idea is, there’s a business model made just for you, and a marketing strategy that will connect you with the people who want exactly what you’re offering.

I believe that whatever your beautiful dream is, you’re already equipped with everything you need to bring it to life… you just need the tools, guidance, plans, and strategies to make it happen with ease.

I believe the world needs the words, works, services, products, and gifts only YOU have to offer… regardless of who else is already doing it, or what other similar offerings and conversations already exist. We need YOU my friend.

I believe that no matter your age, background, current financial status, gender, experience (or lack thereof), or any other quality you believe you lack, you have what it takes to do the work you want to do. YES, you do.

I believe all of this because I’ve not only seen many different people make money in a business built around their unique passion, I’ve helped them create it.

Time and time again, with ease and joy.

For the past two years, I’ve had the honor of supporting amazing individuals just like you in building profitable online businesses around their passions and purpose. Many started with just an inkling of what they’re passionate about, and absolutely no clue where to even begin building something worthwhile, profitable, fulfilling, or marketable. Having worked with so many unique clients and ideas, I’ve perfected the process of turning passionate individuals into profitable entrepreneurs. And because the process works so well, I’ve packaged it in an easy to follow, 12-week program to help you do the same!

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In just twelve weeks, you’ll go from “this is what I’m passionate about, now what do I do with it?” to having:

  • Clarity around who your audience is and who specifically YOU want to work with.
  • Products and services that speak directly to what your ideal customers and clients are looking for.
  • A professional online presence through a beautiful website and solid social media profiles.
  • A clear, step-by-step marketing strategy and plan to grow your audience fast.
  • Every tool you need to work through the common fears and roadblocks that all entrepreneurs face.
  • Compelling content for your website that gets people excited to be in your community.
  • An opt-in offer that builds your email list FAST because it’s exactly what people are looking for.
  • My awesome, no-pressure sales strategy that helps me turn consultations into clients with great success.
  • Step-by-step video trainings on all the technical how-tos, making you your own tech guru.
  • A tribe of likeminded individuals on the same entrepreneurial journey as you.
  • Your very own mentor who’s not only done this herself, but has helped many others do the same.
  • Everything you need to know to build an online business and start making money!

Click here to learn more about Your Passion-Based Business!

Now, I realize that many amazing souls in our community really want to work for themselves doing the thing that truly lights them up, but they aren’t sure what their passion is.

If this is you, don’t worry. I’ve got you covered.

Today I’m excited to share with you the first video in my FREE, three part video training series, Pinpoint Your Passion. Throughout this video series, we’re going to help you hone in on what truly lights you up so that you can begin to create alignment in your life and work, regardless of whether or not you choose to sign up for Your Passion-Based Business. :)

Even if you have no idea what your passion is, or if feel disconnected from your truth… I promise you that it’s there and it’s never left you. What happens for many of us (myself included at one time) is our passion, calling, and purpose gets buried deep below the “shoulds”, external and internal expectations, obligations, and to do lists, but they never actually leave us. We’re never actually without them. This is why I’m giving you my best tools to begin uncovering what your passion is TODAY.

Click here to access the training series now!

Lots of love, xo
Stephenie

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You’re Not Who You Used to Be (and That’s a Good Thing!)

I’ve had the amazing opportunity to learn more about the technical side of websites these past several months. I’ve learned how to code (a.k.a. “build” websites) in new ways, make websites responsive (as in: look pretty on all modern devices like smart phones and tablets!) and am learning more of the “languages” used for coding. I love learning new things… so this is all very exciting and interesting to me.

I often think back to where my journey with building websites began. A very basic level of HTML instruction in college. My third design job out of school where the senior designer taught me how to create websites and email templates straight from my art files. Those early days of learning how to build custom WordPress websites one “I wonder what this will do” tweak at a time (I broke many, MANY client websites in those days). The random micro lessons from developers that had become friends over the years.

So when my development mentor started referring to me as a “front end engineer” I had to chuckle. Quite honestly, I felt like an impostor because I always believed I’m simply “a designer who knows how to code.” I found myself saying things like, “I don’t actually know what I’m doing…”

But the truth is, I do know what I’m doing and I’m doing it really well.

My understanding of languages and fancy development trickery has increased tremendously (even if I still often refer to it as “fancy development trickery”). By choosing to believe I’m still who I once was, just a designer who knows how to code, I’ve been limiting my ability to step into my new skill set as a designer AND front end engineer. To be who I am now, rather than who I’ve been for years.

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I share this as an example of how easy it is to box ourselves in and set ourselves up to get stuck.

Believing you’re who you once were, no matter how recent, is planting the seeds for limiting beliefs that will hold you back for years to come.

You’re not who you once were.
You’re not the kid who couldn’t color inside the lines.
You’re not the teenager who made bad choices on the regular.
You’re not the college student who drank too much and got bad grades.
You’re not the guy or gal who broke that sweet person’s heart.
You’re not even the same person who rolled out of bed in a funk last week.

You’re also not the basketball champ you were in high school.
You’re not the award winning professional (from last week or five years ago).
You’re not the awesome girlfriend you were two days ago.

You’re you, in this moment right here.

The person who’s learned and grown from each win and epic failure in your life. The person who’s also learned and grown from every moment, interaction, challenge and experience you’ve had this week. This very day.

You have to let go of who you once were in order to be who you are today, fully and completely. Sometimes that version is far better, more advanced and wiser than the past models. Sometimes that version is starting over, a little raw, and in need of some new wins. Whatever the version, you’re amazing, perfect, and exactly where you need to be to build the life, relationships, career or business you want to build.

Release your attachment to the versions, mistakes, titles, successes and failures of your past. They were awesome and awful, and they’re absolutely a part of your story… but they don’t define you in this moment. The only thing that defines you is who you choose to be and the actions you choose to take right now.

So if you want to be better, to change your story up, or if you want to try something new, just do it. You have the power to create a new you, life, career, relationship and reality from the choices you make in this moment, your past be damned!

Nothing defines you unless you let it.

So stop letting it define you and start choosing to be the person that you want to be. Start choosing to build the life you want to live and to fulfill all your wildest dreams.

It’s 100% up to you… so what will you choose right now?

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