Step Into Who You’re Here To Be

Did you watch the first video in my new series, uncovering the work you’re here to do? If not, definitely take some time to do so, you won’t regret it.

In this second video, I’m excited to share more about what it takes to step fully and completely into who you’re here to be so you can begin doing the work you feel called to do. I’m talking about what it takes to show up truthfully and authentically in every moment, how to cultivate deep rooted confidence and know your worth, as well as how to release the fear of judgement that holds so many of us back.

This is one of the most in-depth trainings I’ve ever created, and I’ve packed it full of valuable insights, tools, information, processes, and actions steps. Let’s dive into video two: step into who you’re here to be.

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There’s also worksheets, audio, and a transcript available. :)

How To Uncover The Work You’re Here To Do

I’m excited to share a brand new training series with you that will help you uncover the work you’re here to do, step fully and completely into who you’re here to be, and eliminate ALL obstacles between you and your vision. If you’ve ever wanted to run your own business doing the work that lights your soul on fire, showing up fully aligned and fully expressed in everything you do, and with all the freedom of time and choice to live your life as you so deeply desire… this series is for you.

This is one of the most in-depth trainings I’ve ever created, and I’ve packed it full of valuable insights, tools, information, processes, and actions steps. Let’s start with video one: uncover the work you’re here to do.

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There’s also worksheets, audio, and a transcript available. :)

When Our Life And Work Asks Us To Step It Up

The thought was so tiny and simple, easily missed or brushed off as insignificant and silly. It randomly appeared one afternoon while I was writing, one of those whispers of the soul that we can neither confirm or deny… *they just are*. Simple truths that shake us to our core and begin to change everything.

“I’m going to keep people from choosing to leave this world.”

I remember the moment it surfaced, because I had to pause. “I’m sorry, what?” was the thought that followed. And, as simple truths do, it simply repeated itself word for word: I’m going to keep people from choosing to leave this world.

I sat with this for awhile. Not wanting to say it out loud.
Because that would make it real… and it’s too terrifying to be real.

But it’s my work and, if I’m honest, I know it.
I’ve known it for some time now.

You see, I have a theory. A theory that burns my insides and tugs at my heart, calling at me every single day. A theory that gives me chills and inspires me with its possibilities… energizes me with my own personal experience. A theory that’s bigger than just working with depression, and reaches for the hands of the lost and broken and beaten down all over the world.

It’s a theory that also scares the shit out of me.

Because it’s not just a big undertaking, it’s enormous. Seemingly impossible and impractical. And the truth is, I have absolutely no idea how to do it right now. I just know that I have to try. With everything in my being I know I have to step it up and figure it out. Maybe it will happen in this lifetime, maybe it’s meant to inspire the work that will finish it generations from now. I don’t know.

I just know it’s time to step it up.

And that’s really what I’m writing to you about today, stepping it up. In service of something greater than you. In service of your calling and purpose in this life. The work you’re here to do.

“I don’t know how to step it up…” she wrote me, “I guess time will tell if I need to or want to.” I’m writing this post for her as much for me.

Because the truth is, I know it’s time to step it up… but it would be so much easier not to. It would be so much easier to just focus on what I’m good at, what I know how to do. To make a decent living doing awesome work with awesome people, and just living life comfortably and freely.

That would be easier than binding myself to a calling that is so beyond me I can’t even begin to comprehend how it’s possible. And that’s the thing with stepping it up in service of callings, we think it’s supposed to be easy and obvious. Sometimes it’s a gentle whisper of the soul that nudges us in a new direction. Into a new way of thinking or being or showing up.

It feels impossible and overwhelming, because we’re often nowhere near the person we need to be in order to bring that vision to life. I’m certainly nowhere near the person I need to be to resolve the kind of depression that makes people choose to leave. To grab for the hands of the lost and broken and give them the tools they need to not only thrive, but contribute in a big, meaningful way.

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This is the point of stepping it up.

We have to actually step. it. up.

Callings don’t find us when we’re perfectly aligned and ready to do the work. That’s not how it goes. Callings find us when we’re close enough to a starting point that we can begin to make sense of the whispers and nudges and signs. When we’ve been through enough life and living and experiencing to see the vision for what it is. To understand all that it has the power to become. And that can be so freaking far from the finish line it’s not even funny.

I’ve watched one of my very best friends bring a vision to life, one painfully confusing and frustrating day at a time. Listening to a call that nudged him into something he didn’t know how to do… leading him to create something truly phenomenal, different, and needed.

He stepped it up.
Even when he didn’t know how.
Even when it was hard and frustrating.
Even when it stretched him in challenging ways.

Stepping it up isn’t easy. It’s terrifying… and I know that all too well. When I first felt the call to “find myself and my passion,” I was terrified. I had no idea how to do that, and it meant leaving behind all that was known and comfortable. Even if I wasn’t happy, it was known. I could do stuck and unhappy with my eyes closed. Stepping it up meant getting honest about what wasn’t working and what needed to change. And it meant diving deep into the unknown to rediscover myself and what I was put here to do with my life.

It was hard, but I don’t regret one single moment of that journey.

Which is why whenever I hear a clear call to move in a new, powerful, terrifying direction, I listen. I heed the call. I take the first tiny actions to uncover its meaning and lean in a little bit more every day. I find the courage and the resilience to venture down it’s path. I step it up, every single day.

The Thing I Hate The Most (Two Things, Actually)

“I hate that I’m at the forefront of my business,” I shared with my mentor the other day. We were talking about the importance of branding yourself as a thought leader when you want to speak and teach and write.

“Really?” He asked, tilting his head with a bit of uncertainty.

“Hate it.”

I also hate signing my own book.

My guy is such a sweetheart, always sharing it with his friends and family and clients. Always pushing it out into the world, to people who need it. And always asking me to sign it for the people he’s gifting it to.

But the truth is, I hate signing my own book.
I usually won’t unless I’m pushed to.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my book.

I’m so very proud of the work that went into creating it. Over three years of writing tips boiled down into a year’s worth of our favorites. Working with my amazing team to get it ready to be published. Growing the following and seeing people order it from all over the world, thanking me for the words inside of it.

And I love my business.

I love writing and sharing and teaching and coaching. I love growing my brand and my audience, impacting more and more people as we go. I love this big body of work I’ve carefully crafted over the last five years. My business is a huge piece of me. It’s my legacy. I’ve poured all of me into it.

I just hate being at the forefront.
Having to sign the book.
Being in the spotlight.

This is something that many service based entrepreneurs struggle with, which is why I’m being honest with you right now. We just want to serve. We want to contribute and create and change the world in our own special way. We want to watch as our work touches the lives of others, as they grow and change and create what they desire. We want to watch it permeate the globe, reaching as far and wide as it’s needed. We love the creation and birthing process.

But the public part? That’s not easy.
And sometimes it even feels hard and yucky.

I get it. I totally do.

And yet here I am in front of you today telling this story.

Here I am, five years in, standing up in front of more and more people. Pushing myself and my little business further and further into the public eye. Building up my name and my brand. Taking on more of the spotlight.

Why?

Because that’s what the work requires of us.

Especially now when the world is starved for connection and transparency and genuine expression.

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There was a point a couple years ago where I fell to my knees and offered myself up to something greater than me. The Universe, God, Spirit, Source. “Use me up and spit me out,” I said. All I’ve ever wanted is to be of service… to contribute and create and help others do the same. To leave the world, and the people I’m blessed to cross paths with, a little better than I found them.

And the direction I’m headed requires me to stand up, with as much presence as I can, and speak my truth. Share my words. Release the things that move through me. Get the word out. Help as many people as I can. Rally as many more as I can.

The work I feel called to do in the coming years is big. It’s not going to be easy, and it’s going to be met with a lot of resistance and obstacles along the way.

It requires me to stand firmly at the forefront.
Loud and proud and there for the whole world to see.

I don’t like it one bit. But it’s part of the work, and so I do it.
And I’m grateful, despite my discomfort, for every opportunity to show up.

Whatever your work is in the world, big or small, it’s going to require you to step out into the world and say, “hey, I’m here and I’m doing this thing.” It requires you to show up as fully as possible. To connect with truth and transparency. To share yourself and your story, to whatever degree feels good.

So shine that beautiful light bright my friend.
The world needs you, whether you want them looking or not.

What Would You Have Me Say?

“What would you have me say,” I whisper with intention and a bit of frustration (inspired by A Course in Miracles). I’m watching the cursor blink on the stark white page of my writing software. It’s painfully empty, taunting me with all its space. Tormenting me with its desire to be filled with words I don’t have.

I close my eyes, taking a deep breath to settle into the stillness. “Tell me,” I query to the empty space within, “what would you have me say?”

People often tell me I’m a very prolific writer. Which sounds super fancy with such a pretty word – prolific – but really it just means I write a lot. And I do, I write an outrageous amount of words each and every year. On this blog. In my journal. For products and programs and clients. In emails to my friends and family.

New words. New ideas. New posts. New products.
Never seeming to run out of things to share.

The truth is: I produce a lot of words, but I don’t consider myself a prolific writer.

I’m simply an open, devout, intentional receiver.

I show up, consistently, and let the words flow through me.

Lots of people ask me how I write so much. Usually they’re looking for some kind of tool or trick or technique. Some formula they can follow to hit so many words each day, with goals of driving traffic to their website or creating programs.

When I started this blog five years ago, that was my focus too. I wanted readers and subscribers and eventual clients. So I brainstormed a lot. I wrote compelling headlines that would hopefully make people open my emails. I crafted posts that supported the headline and had a clear call to action. I modeled what marketers were doing or recommending. I was strategic in everything I did.

I forced the words to come through.
I pushed and crafted and willed them into being.

And you know what?
They were perfectly fine words.

They helped people. They grew my email list. They brought me my first clients and opportunities online. They laid the foundation for an enormous body of work that I’m proud to have crafted over the years.

But they didn’t connect with people the way I connect today. They didn’t move people as deeply as my words do today. They didn’t tell a story. They didn’t touch on the heart of the matter in a way that people could exhale into, in a way that made others feel less alone.

And that’s the point, isn’t it?
For all of us to feel a little less alone?

We think we’re buying solutions to specific external problems. Our finances. Our businesses. Our relationships. But we’re really after a feeling or an experience… and usually those feelings and experiences boil down to simple desires we all share: to belong, to connect, to contribute, and to live a life we’re proud of and inspired by. That’s really it.

More importantly, we’re all intrinsically connected. Which is why we value depth and truth and connection, especially from the people we give money to help us create what we desire.

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So my advice to you if you want to write or create or share more prolifically and write with more impact, touching the hearts of those who come across your message, it’s not about churning out… it’s about tuning in, opening wide, and receiving.

Which is what I do when I tune in and ask, “what would you have me say?” I don’t force. I don’t strategize. I don’t will the words into being. I create the space for them to flow from a place that is far wiser, more inspiring, and more on point than I could ever be alone.

It’s called channeling. It’s not woo woo… It’s simply tuning in and allowing that wiser part of you – that wiser energy in this world – to say what needs to be said.

Sometimes it takes several minutes.
Sometimes it takes an hour.
Sometimes it takes days.
But the words eventually come.

Lastly, here’s a truth I need to be reminded of from time to time that may also serve you well in these moments: I’m not in charge of the message.

I let it flow and I set it free (with some proofing and spellchecking), and trust that it will land exactly as and where it needs to. It always does. :)

Not only did Stephenie help pinpoint my passions, but she also helped me get started on creating my business. I now know what my passions and purpose are in life and am excited to continue on this path. I have the clarity I so desired before I started this journey. I feel free because I have a deeper sense of self and purpose.

— Adlin Cedeno