The Most Important Decision You’ll Ever Make

I recently saw this quote circulating on Facebook and LOVED it so much I just had to share it with you today (along with a story)…

I found every single successful person I’ve ever spoken to had a turning point. The turning point was when they made a clear, specific unequivocal decision that they were not going to live like this anymore; they were going to achieve success. Some people make that decision at 15 and some people make it at 50, and most people never make it all. – Brian Tracy

Powerful, right?

When I was 21, I found myself in the midst of my quarter-life crisis (I always seem to be early on these things). I remember the moment clearly, because I felt like I’d woken up in a life that wasn’t mine. The job, the boyfriend, the house, and everything else, wasn’t for me. I felt lost with no clue how I’d arrived there, completely unsure of who I was, and had no idea how to figure out what I wanted, or how the heck to go about getting it.

It was a very difficult time.

All I knew was things had to change, and so I began slowly unraveling my perfect little life. I started job hopping, ended one relationship and jumped into another, all attempts at trying desperately to reconnect with myself and figure out what I really desired… but to no avail. Two long years later, on my 23rd birthday, I woke up more depressed and lost that I had started out. I was an absolute mess.

But I made an incredibly important decision that day… I decided that I’d had enough, and that I was going to “change my life” by my next birthday. I was going to be happy and it was going to start RIGHT. THEN. So, I pulled out some paper and listed out absolutely every single thing I believed I needed to feel happy. It was a big list, let me tell you!

I wrote down everything from getting back in shape to whitening my teeth to how many times I should be talking to each family member a month in order to feel happy and fulfilled. Some items were superficial, some were materialistic, a lot were society or externally driven, and a handful were actual deep desires.

The short story is, I didn’t change my life by my “next” birthday. Not even close! In fact, it’s safe to say it was a few more birthdays before real, measurable changes started becoming visible in myself and my life. Honestly, I had no idea what I was doing. I had no way of deciphering between what I really wanted and what I thought I should want. I had no idea how to set manageable and achievable goals for me and my life. And I had no idea what to do when things seemed to fall apart, time and time again, no matter how hard I tried.

I sat down SO many times those years and made these glorious goals and plans. What I should weigh every week, how many pieces of art or poetry I’d produce, how many times I’d be hanging with friends, having date nights and doing all the other “essential to my happiness” action items from my big ol’ list.

So naturally, I would burn out or miss a sub-goal, and then give up with a gloriously dramatic “I’m a failure at life” attitude. But, I had made the decision to change on my 23rd birthday, so I kept moving. It didn’t matter that I didn’t have the tools I needed, I had the drive and was on a mission to find happiness and fulfillment.

And that’s really what it comes down to, making the decision that you’ve had enough of what’s not working, feeling lost, lacking fulfillment and passion, or being in relationships that don’t serve you. Making the decision and then taking action.

It took me a loooooong time to get to where I am today, but it was worth every heart wrenching moment. Every failure, every tear, and every lesson learned.

I know who I am, I know exactly what I want, and I know how to build, not only a life, but a business and relationships that are fully aligned with me passions and purpose.

So I want to know, have you made the decision to create positive changes in your life?

Have you decided that you deserve to feel happy, fulfilled, loved, understood, seen, and supported? Is it time to rediscover yourself, find your passion, and build a life (maybe even a thriving business) around it?

All you have to make is this decision, I can help you with the rest.

I went on a very long, arduous journey and I never want anyone to experience what I did. It was hard and incredibly isolating. It took me YEARS to figure out simple tools and mindset shifts that would completely, and almost instantly, change my world. So, now that I’m through and well beyond my quarter-life crisis, living a life I love built around my passions and purpose, and in fulfilling relationships, I put all the lessons and tools in one place for you. So that in 8 weeks, (yes, just 8 weeks), you’ll be able to rediscover who you are and what you want, find your passion, and begin building a life you truly love around it.

This is one of my absolutely favorite programs to run, because it’s so incredibly transformational. So much so, that many members continue to work through the program every single time it runs. Because it WORKS, and every time you work through the materials, you bring your life to a whole new level of love, fulfillment, passion, and joy.

To watch amazing individuals who are feeling so lost, defeated, and skeptical create massive shifts in just weeks, it’s truly an honor. Past members have left relationships that aren’t serving them with more ease than they knew was possible… left jobs that drained them and have begun building successful businesses they love… gone back to school for the thing that really lights them up… gotten clear about who they are and what they want and created massive, fulfilling shifts in all areas of their lives.

The next round of Foundations for Unshakable Joy™ kicks off on Monday, February 2nd, and if you’ve made the decision to create changes in your life, I hope that you’ll allow me the honor of supporting you on your journey. The ONLY things you have to lose by purchasing this program is your stressed out lifestyle, bad relationships and lack of passion and fulfillment! Click here to join us now!

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If you have questions about the program, please don’t hesitate to email me and ask, I’m happy to help determine if this is the right fit for you.

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Colorado Bucket List: National Center for Atmospheric Research

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I didn’t actually plan to hit the NCAR, and I forgot it was on my Colorado Bucket List, so I’m glad I got to check it out!

Met with a friend to go hiking nearby, and we popped in after finishing our little trek around the nearby trails. The best part by far was the tornado display, which was so fun to watch. There were a couple other awesome displays, like shifting the wind to create sand dunes and the “touch a cloud” stand. There’s not a ton to see there, but the trails are pretty gorgeous.

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What Do You Want Your Legacy To Be?

One of the things I’ve learned having worked with amazing individuals building lives and businesses around their passions over the last few years, is that pretty much everyone wants to make an impact in the world. They want to contribute, change lives, give back, leave their mark, and help others create amazing lives in their own ways.

And yet, so many of us never stop to think about our legacy.

Legacy is simply about contribution, in whatever way is meaningful and important to you. For some people that’s big, lasting companies or movements. Products, services, or creations that alter the way we live, or the direction of humanity. For others, that’s being known for something, even simply touching the lives of others in a very specific way. And for some, it’s about creating and growing a family, passing down values, memories, and traditions from generation to generation.

There’s no “right” way to create your legacy.

While there are certainly people who are happy to simply grace the world with their presence in this lifetime, there are so many of us who care about the legacy we leave behind. The impact, change, world, message, and contribution that only we can give. Yet so many also feel completely lost on what their legacy is, because we live with the misconception that it’s either a huge undertaking or creation, or it’s simply our family and family name. Legacy is more than that, and it’s easy to figure out what you want yours to be.

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How to Create Your Legacy

This process is best worked through by taking some time and sitting with the questions below. Grab a journal, find a quiet place for at least 3o minutes, and just sit with each step. Get real and honest with yourself. This is for you, no one else. If you’re not sure, just do some free writing or meditation and see what surfaces. For some, it may come immediately, and for others it may take some time. Whichever pace you move at, it’s perfect, so allow yourself to just lean into the exercise and see where it leads you.

1) Know Yourself

The most important piece of creating a legacy is knowing who you are. Knowing who you are beyond the roles you play… spouse, parent, manager, employee, child, sibling, etc. Who are you really at your core? What makes you so amazingly unique and different from everyone else? What do you believe, desire, and feel? What does your intuition have to say about you, what you want, and how you want to contribute? Knowing yourself isn’t as easy as it sounds, unless you’ve been working on uncovering your truth, reconnecting with your intuition, and honoring yourself and your needs. We often get so wrapped up in the day to day that we lose sight of ourselves in the process. Don’t beat yourself up if this step is hard, just take the time to really tune in and see what’s true for you.

2) Know Your Highest Values

In order to create a legacy, you have to know what’s most important to you. Not to anyone else, just to you. What do you value most in this life and world? What’s important to you? Is it the environment or giving back? Is it being generous and kind? Is it freedom, innovation, creativity, expression, or something else? There’s no right or wrong answer, so don’t try to choose values that seem like ones you “should” choose. It’s so incredibly important that we all stay true to ourselves and what we truly value. That’s what makes this world so magical, everyone is here with their own personality, style, values, and beliefs, and each and every one is needed.

3) Know How You Want to Contribute

There are so many ways to contribute and create a legacy, and it’s important to choose what makes the most sense for you, your lifestyle, and your values. Is it creating a company, product, or service? Is it raising a family and instilling your knowledge, traditions, and values? Is it being known for your generous and giving spirit by everyone who interacts with you? Is it your art, whether words, visual, photography, or even your style? Is it something totally different and unique? When people think of you, what do you want them to say? How do you want them to feel? How do you want to be remembered by the people who cross paths with you in this life?

4) Create Alignment in Your Life and Work

Once you’re clear on who you are, what you value, and how you want to contribute, you have to start creating alignment. If generosity is important to you, how can you bring more of that value into your life, relationships, and work? If raising a family is important, how can you create the space to find the right person, build a family, and pass on the values and traditions that matter? If it’s starting a business or movement, or creating something, what needs to happen for you to do this? What do you need to learn, create, or get started on? Where do you need to create space, or make some big shifts and changes? Who needs to be in your life, and who needs to go?

Take action now!

Work through the steps above at a pace that feels good for you. Share with me your biggest aha moment and what you’ve discovered from this exercise.

Not sure who you are, what you value, or how to create alignment? Consider joining myself and other amazing individuals like you in this round of Foundations for Unshakable Joy™! Foundations contains the exact process that took me from stressed, depressed, completely lost, and totally unsure who I was or what I wanted, to living a life totally on purpose, filled with joy, and build around my passions. We start Monday, February 2nd!

“People around me have noticed how ‘happy’ I’ve been lately and I can 100% say that I have never felt more happy, authentic, confident, and healthy as I do now. I am so grateful to Stephenie for helping me begin this journey of self discovery.” –Jennifer McAleese

“Since starting this program I am on my way to obtaining my bachelors degree, I have reinvested in my own business, and started really focusing on my fitness. I am much happier and much more productive; laziness is a thing of the past!” –Kristina Dahlgren

“It’s changed my life. It made me became clear on where I am heading with my career and now it’s all falling into place. I can see it going just the way I dreamed of. I’m full of ideas and creativity now and I can put those ideas into practice. I’m excited, happy and full of energy.” –Charlie Oswin

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An entertaining look at how I got started coaching… it’s pretty great.

Have you ever wondered how I got started coaching, or maybe what it would have been like to work with me when I first began? Whether or not you have, I think you’ll find today’s story entertaining and insightful. :)

When I first began coaching, I was still doing a lot of my own personal development work, but there was one thing I hadn’t yet mastered: getting out of my head and into the present moment. So when I had a coaching consultation or call, I would spend at least an hour preparing for that call. No joke.

I would start to get really nervous, write out and practice my sales pitch, obsess over all the possible things I might be asked, and consider how exactly I would respond to those questions or inquiries. It was exhausting to say the least. When the calls finally rolled around, I would have to do a pretty crazy little dance-jig to try and work out all the nervous energy I was stuffing down, make weird song like noises to open up my tightly closed vocal chords, and quickly glance back over all my prep notes.

Then, I’d hop on the phone only to find I still barely had a voice (there was a LOT of throat clearing), forgot everything I wanted to say, and would fumble through the calls. I’ll admit these weren’t my finest days as a coach. Did I provide value to my clients? Absolutely, I have no doubts about that… but I could have been far more impactful if I hadn’t been so deep in my head and obsessed with everything that could possibly be said or asked.

Outside of coaching, I spent a lot of time in tense anticipation of any kind of interaction or situation, because I was always thinking about what was going to happen, how I would be perceived, what I would say, etc. One time I even sat down after a quick introduction at a networking event wondering if I had even said my name right! I’m still not sure on that one…

These days, it’s a totally different story.

You’ll never catch me preparing for a coaching call unless there’s something I need to read or review from a client. Outside of setting up my lighting and closing my office door, you’ll also never catch me preparing for a video interview, even for big platforms like en*theos Academy (okay, maybe I touch up my hair and makeup). I’m calm, totally present, focused, and completely in my genius zone at all times. More importantly, I serve my clients from a much deeper and more powerful space than ever before.

When I started coaching, I tried everything I could think of to get to this kind of space, but that was the problem. I was thinking way too much. It wasn’t until I learned an incredibly essential and simple shift that I was able to access this cool, collected, focused, and genius side of myself. It took a lot of practice, I won’t lie… but this tool has 100% transformed my life.

Not just with my work and clients, but in my relationships and daily life. I’m happier, more at peace, totally tuned into my intuition at all times, and rarely ever stressed out anymore. Powerful, powerful stuff and I’m so excited to share this final tool with you today. :)

Ready to create some massive shifts?!

Learn the Most Essential Shift for Eliminating Stress and Negativity

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I was broke, overweight, depressed, and… filled with joy.

Today I want to tell you another story…

A couple years after throwing everything into a tailspin while trying to “change my life” many years ago, I found myself having just moved to Hawaii with my then boyfriend and living at my parent’s house. I was working full time doing customer service and data entry (I don’t think I have to say that I didn’t enjoy this AT ALL, but just in case…I most certainly didn’t enjoy this at all!), trying to start a design business, completely broke, unhappy in my relationship, still overweight, still totally lost as to who I was or what I wanted, and still very depressed.

It wasn’t a fun time.

I was working at a job crammed into the home office of my boss. She had this impressive book collection on the shelves next to her that we were allowed to borrow at any time. One day when I was in the office alone and bored out of my mind, I started perusing the bookshelf. I’d never really read any self help or personal development books, but I was immediately drawn to Jack Canfield’s book Success Principles… it practically leapt off the shelf at me! I took it home and began reading immediately.

From there, I started listening to recorded trainings by Jack and other mentors, read more and more personal development books, and started reading blogs and articles with the same focus. This self help stuff was pretty awesome and I was hooked.

More importantly? I had begun putting a handful of the principles I was learning into practice, but I wasn’t really sure if anything was working because my life didn’t seem to be changing like I’d been hoping it would for the last two (very long) years.

Then one evening, after a long day at work, I came home to work on some design projects for my growing business, only to find that my computer was completely dead. My computer, with all my files, client projects, and personal photos and artwork, wasn’t starting up and was leaking some kind of important looking fluid.

Now, after a couple years of life being incredibly exhausting, tear inducing, stressful, chaotic, depressing, and completely out of balance, one would expect me to have a total meltdown. I even expected me to have a total meltdown. After all, that was my default when even the smallest thing went wrong those days.

Instead, I smiled and shrugged it off as just a little bump in the road.

I managed to not only make the situation work until I could scrounge up enough money for a new (very used) computer, but I did it peacefully and joyfully. Were there moments that were stressful? Absolutely, but I hadn’t handled a single thing with this much grace and joy in a long time, if ever.

While I was reading a lot of books and learning a lot of new tools and tricks, there was one simple mindset shift that allowed me to not only handle that situation like I did, but allowed me to shift into the joyful, positive, and totally in love with life person I am today.

Let me be clear, I’m not without problems! Things go wrong in my life just as often as anyone else’s. I’m hit with unexpected expenses, slow months in business, unhappy moments in relationships, and challenges left and right. In fact, last fall was one of the most stressful times of my life! But no matter what, I always come from a place of joy and peace. I’m always happy and grateful for every single moment and experience in my life, even the sucky ones.

I’m not special, and I certainly didn’t start off at an “easy” or “happy” place giving me a leg up on these kinds of experiences. I started from a place of confusion, depression, stress, and chaos, and yet…here I am today a happy and joyful person. Like I said in Monday’s email, it’s because I did the work. Really, truly did the work, and I continue to do it every single day.

Today I want to share that simple mindset shift with you so you can do the same in your life, regardless of what’s going on. This exercise is short and powerful, and can be applied to ANY area of your life where you’re feeling dissatisfied and will instantly raise your vibrational level so you can start attracting all of the amazing things you deeply desire.

Let’s dive in!

The Simple Mindset Tool That Will Instantly Bring More JOY Into Your Life

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It’s changed my life. It made me became clear on where I am heading with my career and now it’s all falling into place. I can see it going just the way I dreamed of. I’m full of ideas and creativity now and I can put those ideas into practice. I’ve got my fire back. I’m excited, happy and full of energy. Thank you. — Charlie Oswin