Every so often I become aware that another year of my life has passed. This isn’t because it’s my birthday, it’s just a moment where I’m reminded of where I was exactly a year ago. For many years, this realization was met with a pounding heart, deep sadness, and frustration that another year had passed where nothing in my life changed. Nothing at all. I was unhappy, lacking joy and fulfillment, depressed, overweight, completely lost as to who I was or what I wanted, always broke, and without depth and connection of any kind in my life. So realizing that I’d spent another entire year in this place was devastating.
Let me give you some back story…
When I was 21 years old, I had everything I thought I ever wanted. I had just graduated from college at the top of my class, had an amazing job at a local graphic design firm, a brand new townhouse, a boyfriend of almost seven years (my “high school sweetheart”), and a shiny little car in my own name. On the outside it appeared that I was doing everything right for my age, and, honestly, a lot better than my peers. People were really proud of me and impressed by the life I’d worked so hard to create at such a young age.
But despite outward appearances, I was absolutely miserable.
Knowing that the guy I shared a home with was not “the one.” Finding that the great job, despite the excellent pay and awesome projects, wasn’t making me happy. Feeling trapped financially by the house, the car and the “perfect little life” I had created… basically feeling that nothing in my life was right, deeply unfulfilled, isolated and with absolutely no clue what to do about any of it!
I attempted to resolve the growing discomfort with several new jobs, all ridiculously fabulous and with increased salary and clout. I ended my relationship, jumped into a new one, and threw myself into a whirlwind of painful changes and serious stress. But no matter what I did, something deep inside me just wasn’t having any of it.
During this difficult period of my life, I truly believed I would never be happy. I believed that I simply wasn’t built for it and being a “happy person” just wasn’t in the cards for me. I believed that life would always be a struggle and it would pass by right before my eyes with absolutely no say on my part.
And yet, here I am today with a completely different life and perspective.
When I realized recently that another year had passed, I felt expansive, joyful, filled with gratitude, amazed, and absolutely in love with myself and my life. And the best part? I feel this way every single day.
How’s that for a change?
The reason I’m sharing this with you today is because I want to touch on something incredibly important that took me years to understand: creating the changes you want to see externally in your life starts with the changes you make internally. Despite all the job, location, income, business, and relationship changes I made during that difficult time, nothing actually changed for me. I was still unhappy, lacking fulfillment, completely lost, miserable, and depressed.
It wasn’t until I started doing the inner work, and I mean really doing the work, that I began to create amazing things in my life externally.
This week, I’m going to be sharing three videos with you that contain the most essential tools, mindset shifts, and exercises with you so you can begin creating an amazing life you absolutely LOVE, right now. When asked by my clients and Mastery members what was the ONE THING I did to really start making changes in my life, I tell them there are three simple things I did.
Each of these individual exercises are truly transformational on their own, but combined? They’re unbelievable. Spoiler! In this first video, you’re also going to hear about the biggest, most painful and slightly embarrassing lesson I’ve ever learned on taking ownership in my life. It’s a doozy.
Depending on how you connected with me originally, you may have already seen these videos, but I encourage you to take some time to really watch them again, AND work through the exercises. This isn’t the kind of work you do once and suddenly everything’s amazing. Nope, not even close. I still do the work in these three videos every single day. That’s how I created an amazing life and business I love, and it’s how I’ll continue to build on the beautiful foundation I’ve created.
So, let’s dive in shall we?
After you watch the video, leave a comment and let me know your thoughts, what came up for you, and how you’ll begin utilizing this powerful shift in your life!