Desire Map 2015 Planner Giveaway!

This contest has ended!

I’ve been a huge fan of Danielle LaPorte and her work since I first saw her speak back in 2010. She spoke of a concept around goal setting I’d never heard before, but was so drawn to: Core Desired Feelings (or CDFs). Basically, setting goals based on how you want to feel… wow, what a concept!

Since that first introduction to her work, I’ve been obsessed. The Fire Starter Sessions is absolutely life changing and lit a fire under my ass to follow my passions and purpose like nothing else I’ve ever read. When she released her first copy of The Desire Map, I was beyond thrilled to get my copy and have since settled into some CDFs that are guiding my life in such a powerful new direction:

Deeply Connected.
Divinely Feminine.

So imagine my delight to receive an email from Team Danielle not only letting me know they wanted to gift me a beautiful 2015 Desire Map Day Planner, but they wanted to gift one to my amazing readers as well!

When I received the package in the mail I was ecstatic! This day planner is so incredibly beautiful… it’s bound like a moleskin with pages and pages just ready and waiting for me to plan out my 2015 around my CDFs.

What I love the most:

  • The monthly reflection sections that prompt you to look back on what you want to celebrate, and what didn’t go well so you can make shifts and move forward .
  • The monthly overviews that include astrological dates and happenings (I mean, THE BEST)
  • The daily pages with enough space for appointments or to-dos, and a ton of space to explore how to generate your CDFs in different areas of you life.
  • The binding, cover, beautiful design and typography, and general amazingness

Want a free 2015 Desire Map Day Planner?

Simply comment below and tell me what you desire to create in 2015! Be sure to include your name and email address in the comments box.

This contest has ended!

Congratulations to Mary Ellen!


Friday Finds


Every week I come across some pretty awesome people and things on the interwebs, so I’m sharing my favorite finds with you.

A hilarious and wise video from Nick Offerman. Must watch.

This “Fuck Yes or No” is a way of living, and applies to more than just relationships.

Fantastic article on relationships and really owning your emotions from Ben Wills.

Basically the truth about homebodies and how I spend my weekends.

It’s healthy pumpkin ice cream… need I say more?

This unbelievable simple and amazing DIY blog planner that I’ve modeled.

Great article on emotional eating and how it ties into pleasure.

Amazing blog post about how we’re not alone from Lisa Fabrega.

Love this year recap from Liz DiAlto.

Signs you are under-goddessed from Over the Moon Magazine.

This song about superheros from The Script.

My new Jumpstart package… have you seen it?

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Colorado Bucket List: Casa Bonita


Casa Bonita is a Denver landmark. Despite already having been here before, I had to make sure to visit at least once more.

This is actually a very delayed Colorado Bucket List post, as my best friend and I hit up Casa Bonita the same day we went to Mt. Evans! The food was “meh”, but the experience is simply unforgettable. There were cliff divers, some kind of gorilla expedition show, a gunfight, and terrible service, but the sopapillas were divine!


September Was…


Cooler temps and loads of hot tea coming back in the mix.

Long walks at my favorite park and blooming plant babies on the balcony!

Life changing books about the masculine and feminine.

Getting creative in the kitchen with healthy snacks and treats.

Giant sunflowers, couch snuggles, and first bubble baths in the new apartment.

The start of my first home project, frames for the coming photo wall.

New, “loud” sunglasses that died all too quickly.

Tapas with friends of friends and cute finds in Boulder.

Loads of meditating with my abundance stones around big decisions.

Changing colors, favorite park, and loads of my favorites.

Lots of writing with my best bud in my lap.

Almost first snows, calming tea, and yoga with a friend.

Another visit to my new favorite spot in the world, and sheep!

My seven year Maxiversay.

New books, book signing with friends, and seeing the colors!

The start of stomping season (yay!).

Old tricks, new experiments, and a little R&R time.

Closing chapters and new seasons.

Massive and enormous levels of growing up, finally.

New projects on personal and business fronts.

Excitement, heartache, change, and trust.


What We Do Isn’t For Them

When we feel called to do or create something in our lives, it’s not always going to align perfectly for the people we love. We may be called in a direction that goes against our family’s belief system, makes our significant other uncomfortable, or causes us to butt heads with our closest friends.

That’s okay, because what we do isn’t for them.

The work we’re each here to do individually in the world isn’t about the people we may love and know. Sometimes it’s meant to pull us far away from the ones we’re closest to and most comfortable with. Sometimes it’s meant to challenge us in ways that our hearts shatter and our ties are severed. Sometimes it’s meant to push us beyond the circle we’ve come to love and trust so we can step more fully into our unique role in this life.

Our callings belong to us, and us alone. If we continue to hide behind the beliefs we were raised with and the ways of being that make other people feel comfortable, we’re never going to grow into the person we’re meant to be. More importantly, we’re never going to do the work we’re here to do.

Callings are different for all of us. Sometimes they’re big and grand and world changing. Sometimes they’re grand, yet closer to home and more personal. Sometimes it’s about starting businesses, becoming healers, challenging the status quo, or creating a movement that changes the world. Other times it’s about expressing ourselves, making art, raising a family, or moving to a new city on the other side of the country. Whatever the calling, it’s meaningful and important because it’s about contributing in our own special ways.

Yet far too often, we let the people around us interfere with the following of our callings. We let them make us feel wrong for what we do, guilt us because they’re uncomfortable, or keep us from making change through threats of withholding love or support.


Here’s the thing (two things actually): It’s not about them… and it is about them.

Let me elaborate…

First, it’s not about them, it’s about you.

The work you’re here to do, the family you’re here to raise, the way you’re built to express, and the things you feel called to pursue, it’s not about them. It’s about you. It’s about the contribution only you can make to the world, and it’s about creating a life you love that’s built around passion, purpose, and fulfillment. You were put here to do great and amazing things, not to make other people happy or comfortable.

Second, it’s also totally and completely about them.

When I say this, what I mean is whatever their issue, it’s theirs and not yours. You’re not responsible for anything or anyone but yourself, and how someone else reacts to the choices you make says more about them than you. If someone is mad or scared, that’s their fear and belief system getting in the way, not yours. If someone is uncomfortable, that’s their issue with change and growth, not yours. If someone is guilting you or giving you a hard time, clearly they’re not an awesome and supportive person and it’s a good thing you’re realizing it.

The most important thing you can do in this life is stay true to yourself and what calls your soul.

Stop worrying about other people and focus on what you’re here to do and who you’re here to be.

The second most important thing you can do is find a tribe of people who love and support you. More specifically, find a tribe of people who totally get you and what you’re working to create. While we may want the people we’ve know the longest to be our biggest supporters, it’s simply not always going to be the case. So find your real family and your right friends. When we have the right support in place, it’s easier to follow our callings and step into our truth.

Remember, it’s about you.

Take action now!

Tell me, what’s one area of your life where you’re not honoring your needs, desires, and callings because of someone else? How can you recognize that’s it’s not about them, and how it is about them, so you can start moving forward? How will you create space so you can find your right tribe?

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It’s changed my life. It made me became clear on where I am heading with my career and now it’s all falling into place. I can see it going just the way I dreamed of. I’m full of ideas and creativity now and I can put those ideas into practice. I’ve got my fire back. I’m excited, happy and full of energy. Thank you. — Charlie Oswin