”It’s often from a sense of discontent, feelings of incompleteness,
or even a twinge of true unhappiness that the seeds of great
accomplishment are sown.” The Universe
This quote arrived in my inbox early this morning and was so fitting. Just last night I was reading through my old blogs… the ones from the days when I posted anonymously, depressingly and with high levels of stress, discontent and with zero sense of direction for my life. Just reading the words that poured out of my heart takes me back to a painful place. But it also makes me smile…
It makes me smile because now, if someone I know talks about being unhappy or feeling lost… I feel a little bit excited. Though I KNOW it does NOT feel that way at the time, feelings of discontent and unfulfillment are simply the starting points for amazing changes in your life.
No, they won’t always be easy, nor will they happen for you overnight… but I can attest to the fact the what’s coming to you is far more spectacular than you could ever possibly imagine for yourself.
Why feeling discontent is a really great sign…
If you’re feeling discontent with something (or someone) in your life… CONGRATS! You’re connected, on some level, with your truth and your deepest desires. While you may not be able to elaborate what they are, you’re connected enough to KNOW that you’re off course. That something isn’t right and that something MUST. CHANGE.
Yes, change is scary and can be painful, but if you want to feel happy, alive and fulfilled, it’s absolutely necessary. The more open you are to seeking out a better path, removing unncessary weight and stress from your life and following your heart, the less painful the process will be.
In fact, it can be a delightful, eye-opening and truly expansive experience that you’ll never forget.
What to do when you feel discontent…
Write, or talk… then write or talk some more.
Yes, I advocate journaling for practically every situation! Handwritten journaling provides a direct link to your deepest thoughts, desires and truths. If you’re feeling unhappy, dissatisfied or upset, sit yourself down with pen and paper and get to it.
No thinking allowed. Simply write whatever comes to mind, no matter how petty, random or silly it seems. The more you allow yourself to freely write what comes to mind, the more clarity you’re going to receive on your situation. I promise that if you make writing a daily practice, and something you do every time you feel out of sorts, you’re going to know EXACTLY what it is that’s bothering you and exactly what you need in order to feel better about the situation.
And if you’re going to fight me on this one… TALK.
Talk to the people you trust and the ones that will really hear you out and let you vent. The more you talk about the situation, the more clarity you’re going to receive. But be careful not to let other’s opinions and agenda’s inerfere with your own discovery process!
Be kind to yourself.
Take a bath or a walk, watch your favorite movie in your favorite PJs with your favorite take out… read a good book. Go for a run. Buy yourself something nice. Be KIND to yourself during this process.
You’re not crazy, you’re not ungrateful, you’re not alone and you WILL get through this.
Practice kindness towards yourself with your thoughts, actions and attitude. And do NOT beat yourself up! Clarity and change takes time. Commit to being your own partner and number one supporter or you’re never going to get through this.
Take little steps forward in a better direction.
It might take time for you to really move into a place of happiness, depending on the level of discontent you’re feeling and depending on your personal situation. All minor and major life changes start with one simple step in the right direction.
If you’re not thrilled about your body, try out a new, healthy recipe or go for a short walk. If you’re unhappy in your relationship, have a conversation about what you need. If you can’t stand your job, take a peek at what else is out there or brainstorm ways to make your job more enjoyable.
Change doesn’t happen overnight, but you can create momentum in the right direction AND help yourself feel better by taking one small step at a time.
MOST IMPORTANTLY, trust yourself.
You feel discontent for a reason and this is not something to ignore. Trust yourself no matter what anyone else says or anything your inner critic can think up to deter you from following your heart.
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